Many times, the grieving gets harder at night. You need to feather your nest and make yourself a comfortable nesting spot in which to do your griefwork. See if one of these bereavement pillows might help.
You may be dealing fairly well with your bereavement during the busy times of the day. But you may find some difficult times at night when you crawl into bed. You watch an old movie on TV, maybe tackle a nice boring novel to get to sleep…
But then, the old grief demons lurk in the shadows, don’t they? I’m so sorry, we don’t really have a cure for that. Sadly, you must work it through yourself. But we do advocate comfort. Make your nest as soft and comforting as possible. Perhaps one of the items below might be just the thing to provide much-needed comfort and help you get to sleep at night…
Best Bereavement Pillows For Comfort
Here are some ideas for bereavement pillows to help you through those sleepless painful nights.
- A memorial grief pillow – have a photo of your loved one transferred to a nice soft pillow.
- Memory Foam Topper – Once you have slept on this stuff once, you will never go back!
Memorial Grief Pillow
Here’s an example of memorial pillows. The company will add an image of your loved one before shipping it to you.
Memory Foam Mattress Topper
Okay, so memory foam is obviously not a “comfort grief pillow”. But this stuff has made such a profound difference in my life, honestly, I wanted to share it with you. You spend about one-third of your life in bed. You reach for all the creature comforts in the world for the other two thirds, so why not pay attention to your comfort while you sleep?
Linenspa 2 Inch Gel Infused Memory Foam Mattress Topper, Full
When you first lay down on memory foam (if it’s good quality like this Puffy mattress topper) you feel like you’re lying on a piece of plywood.
After about 15 minutes though, you start to realize that your body is seeping down into the material until it is perfectly supported at all spots. There are no stress points, where one part of your body receives more friction/pressure than another.
“Memory foam” is kind of a misnomer. It doesn’t really remember the contours of your body. It molds to your shape every time you lay down, in any position.
If you’re interested, make sure and get fairly dense memory foam. The ones you see at Walmart are too spongy: not dense enough. You can find memory foam mattress toppers online but might be expensive to ship unless you have Amazon Prime (great to have for everything you need to buy throughout the year.).
Here’s a free trial if you’d like to look into it: Try Amazon Prime 30-Day Free Trial
If you have the money…
Invest in a complete Tempur-Pedic system, with thick memory foam mattress (not a topper) and up-and-down controls. We do not receive any compensation for this endorsement, this advice is from personal experience:
Memory Foam Body Pillows
These memory foam body pillows measure an oversized 20 x 54 x 6 inches. Why pay up to $200 for the leading memory foam brand body pillow? The body pillows below provide luxurious comfort without a hefty price tag.
Wrap yourself around all the comfort and support you need for a deep, restful night’s sleep with the embrace memory foam body pillow. How did you ever do without one?
Breathable Long Side Sleeper Pillow for Sleeping （20×54 inchMemory Foam Body Pillow- for Side Sleepers Full Body Pillows for Adults – Removable Zippered Bamboo Cover
Family Comfort Pillows
Stephen’s Pillows – One family who lost their teenaged son Stephen made comforting pillows out of his sweatshirts. They cut off the sleeves and sewed the bottom and arm openings shut, using the neck hole as an opening for stuffing.
Each family member stuffed his own pillow half-way and then wrote a letter to Stephen. They shared their letters with each other, then folded them into very small squares and placed them in the center of their pillow. They then filled them up, and then the neck was sewn shut. As part of the ritual, they shared stories about Stephen. Each used his own pillow for comfort however they wished.
“A pillow for thee will I bring, Stuffed with down of angel’s wing.”
~Richard Crashaw
